fix: apply security and correctness review findings across both stacks

Legacy panel:
- upstream body reads now carry their own deadline and a 10 MB byte budget;
  a stalled modem can no longer hang /api/status fan-out forever nor OOM
  the proxy (request headers alone had the timeout, bodies had none)
- add X-Frame-Options DENY / CSP frame-ancestors none / nosniff; the panel
  (delete-instance and confirmed-write dialogs) is no longer clickjackable
- only send a JSON content-type when the API console request has a body, so
  payload-less dangerous writes stop failing with 400 and burning the
  one-use confirmation token
- register a form-urlencoded parser (the proxy branch was unreachable) and
  drop the multipart parser that buffered up to 60 MB before rejecting;
  bodyLimit drops to 2 MB; framework-level 415 keeps the stable error body
- remove /api/sms/send from readable paths: GET bypassed the write
  confirmation for a send endpoint
- /api/instances/:id/login maps upstream failures to a stable 502 instead
  of leaking raw error text
- guard MULTI_SIMADMIN_TIMEOUT_MS parsing (NaN aborted every request);
  prune dead code (buildClients, cookie expando no-op)

Control plane:
- deleting a notification channel detaches it from rules instead of leaving
  dangling ids that made every referencing rule unreadable and silently
  dropped future notifications; rule reads tolerate unknown ids
- startup sweep resets notification_queue rows stranded in 'sending' by a
  crash (mirrors the sms outbox sweep); terminal outbox rows are pruned on
  the retention timer
- /api/v1/metrics no longer emits operator-assigned node names on the
  session-free scrape; login limiter map is bounded and pruned; Secure
  cookie honors the gateway-declared x-forwarded-proto
- webhook delivery sets redirect: manual (signed payloads are not replayed)
- SMTP envelope sender is validated against CR/LF smuggling
- scheduled reboots with delaySeconds != 3 fail fast at the dispatcher with
  a clear reason instead of burning every retry; contract narrowed to the
  pinned baseline

server/proxy/service.js

@@ -1,3 +1,5 @@
+import { readResponseBody } from '../core.js'
+
 const BLOCKED_REQUEST_HEADERS = new Set([
   'connection', 'keep-alive', 'proxy-authenticate', 'proxy-authorization', 'te', 'trailer',
   'transfer-encoding', 'upgrade', 'host', 'content-length', 'cookie', 'authorization',
@@ -63,5 +65,5 @@ export async function proxyToInstance({ client, request, reply, rest }) {
   upstream.headers.forEach((value, name) => {
     if (!BLOCKED_RESPONSE_HEADERS.has(name.toLowerCase())) reply.header(name, value)
   })
-  return reply.send(Buffer.from(await upstream.arrayBuffer()))
+  return reply.send(await readResponseBody(upstream))
 }